The first few times I did this, I had an emergency escape plan. In my car I carried a container of water, some soap, a wash rag, and a complete change of clothes. I then showed up at the airport about three hours early so that if the airline or the TSA wouldn't let me through, all I had to do was run to the car, wash, and change. In this way, the only chance I was taking was that I might get embarrassed and have to change in my car in the parking lot.
I do not have any sort of Femme ID, nor did I need one.
I did not lie or mislead anyone in any part of the process.
I also did not go out of my way to explain my TG status either.
I booked my flights in the usual fashion, under my male name, using my male credit card, and my male ID. When I checked in, I used the Kiosk just like anyone else. When they asked for my ID when checking my baggage, I showed them my male drivers license. When going through the TSA security, I showed my male ID when asked for it. I don't bother to explain that I'm TG as I hand the ID over. It's fairly obvious at that point and I would just seem a bit silly to try and explain it if not asked.
I have now flown around a dozen times, and in all of those occasions, I've had:
- 1 TSA agent clearly look down his nose as he passed me through. It was clear he didn't like me.
- 1 TSA agent that dealt with me on several trips flirt with me
- 2 TSA agents (on different trips) tease me with a smile on their faces.
- 1 Delta gate agent smile and tell me that she sees me so often she should have my name memorized.
So there you have it! No secrets, no tricks, no hoops to jump through! You do everything just as you would when you fly any time, the only difference is you are dressed a bit better! lol
By the way, if any of you have first or second hand experience flying from another airport in the US, please let me know! I want to hear from you if you, or a friend of yours has done it - please don't send me a message about a friend of a friend as I would not consider that to be reliable information